On Communication

On Communication

I can’t help but think back on how difficult and even expensive it was to stay in touch with friends and loved ones back in my early adult years… Both distance and being unable to share life’s everyday happenings put many long distance relationships through considerable amounts of stress. There was no texting, no cell phones, no email… just snail mail and waiting for Ma Bell’s reduced after hours long distance rates.

The world has seemingly gotten a lot smaller over the past 30 years, thanks to advances in technology. Still, I wouldn’t trade these old letters or the excitement of waiting for the mailman or that telephone to ring, because when we were finally able to connect with and spend time with our loved ones we really spent time with each other…. face to face… eye contact… no distractions from our handheld devices. The only hand holding was fingers interlocked and holding on for dear life.

Give someone your undivided attention today… look them in the eyes and really connect.
You can thank me later. 🙂

29 Comments

  1. Same here Jennifer Leslie .  I owe my besties some handwritten responses…so I’ll challenge myself to get that done before the weekend is up. 
    Also,
    Wanna be Pen Pals! 😉 xo

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  2. I can honestly say, without reservation, that my life (and future) would look very different if it weren’t for the avenues of communication that modern technology has offered. And yet, regardless of the medium, being present and focused is vital to making it work. Whether you’re wrapped in each other’s arms, sharing a conversation and a laugh over a dining table, or connecting over 100s of miles of wires and microwaves.

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  3. You’ve grown with the times, Sean Heffernan …and you’re absolutely right.  Taking the shortcuts doesn’t get us the quality results we deserve. Being Present.  That’s the key.

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  4. Absolutely, Matthew Frank .  I was a Navy Wife back in the day, and lived through two 6 month deployments.  Cousins and Brothers also spent time away from home serving…I’ve kept all those “Air Mail” letters, as well. True Treasures.

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  5. PIZZA!!!!!  🙂  When I come back to NY to visit, you’ll have to take me for some brick oven pizza, Sean Schmidt . 
    Also, dawww.. ❤ ❤  you two make my heart happy, Jennifer Leslie

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  6. When my best friend (now friends for 39 years!) left for Australia 28 years ago, snail mail was all we could rely on to communicate. It would take 5 weeks to send a letter and get a reply back, often long after the dramas described in the letters. We still have those letters and now marvel at how easy it is to stay in touch most days by text. Perhaps if texting had been around 28 years ago, my friend would have felt less isolated and homesick, being able to sound off with each drama and life event as it happened, instead of having to use snail mail………. But then we wouldn’t have our letters!

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  7. Even long hand writing is not taught in schools these days I am told, which is sad. (He said while using predictive writing on his Note 4).

    Still I think 90 bucks/month is more expensive than snail mail and phone calls were.

    Web video calls are in some ways better than visits with our family that is in Australia and Southern California. Still miss the hugs.

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  8. I remember that wait from my mothers excitement for a letter…from kin folk I never met and likely won’t now…my immigrant ancestors stretched from the entire Eastern coast to here and beyond as the west began to open…I have a Native American side that went from Florida to Oklahoma…and we had a bunch that went to California during the Dust Bowl years…we had family members that followed crops to work in fields and decided they liked it there or married into families there…I myself only remember letters from California as the Army forwarded mail from my brother and friends fighting in Viet Nam…each one letting me know my letters had made it to them and theirs letting me know that at a point in time they were alive and were closer to coming home if they made it thru the war….thanks for taking me back…all the letters were exciting and precious

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  9. I love the smallness of the world, via technology, but I still love the tactile smell and feel of a letter. I used to get letters from my grandmother all the time…it was something to look forward to, and now I have these mementos of her.

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  10. My grandmother had the most beautiful handwriting in the world. She was born in 1912 and her penmanship was beyond compare… so glad I saved hers cards and letters and hand written recipes. Jack Fox​.
    And trust me long distance phone calls could be upwards of $300 a month when I was dating my husband ….that’s why we finally got married… to save on the phone bill.
    Lol

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  11. What wonderful and rich family history you shared with us gene presley​. Thank you we have quite a bit in common when it comes to ancestors and Uncles in Vietnam. 🙂

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  12. BobbieZen​ Letter writing is a missing art. My parents wrote each other letters every day for more than a year, while my dad was in the Army. She has them in a box under her bed in chronological order and takes them out to read since my dad died in 2004. It’s just beautiful and I plan to scan them so my children have them to read in the future.

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  13. Susan LaDuke​ my friend Libby found a suitcase full of letters from her parents after her mother passed 4 years ago. Her father died in 1987. She was moved by the tenderness and the passion she’d not witnessed as a child. Those letters are a beautiful piece of family history … so glad you have them to pass down! 🙂

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